What should I expect when I get to your dungeon?
Relax. Put up your feet. Enjoy the welcoming atmosphere. Chicago Dungeon is the real thing, a play space designed by a lifestyle mistress. It probably won't be what you expect, because most dungeons are a facade, not a real BDSM residence that is used everyday by the mistress who lives there. Move comfortably in private from room to room. Drink in the incredible surroundings. Smiles and hugs are free.
Will other people be there?
My dungeon is extremely private. I am an independent dominatrix. We will be alone.
Is another BDSM professional available to join us?
I work alone.
What if I have never seen a dominatrix before?
I specialize in making novices feel at ease. Any first time experience is intimidating, particularly when it deals with one's innermost secret desires. It is important to remember that I am a seasoned professional with over two decades experience. You will always be treated with respect and understanding. Exploring forbidden fantasies and fetishes need not be a terrifying prospect. Keep in mind that your scene is completely safe and discreet. Relax and let my experienced hand guide you into the realm of subspace or the realization of your fetish fantasies.
What will happen during our session?
I refer to this as "design your own session." Much of what happens during your visit depends upon your needs, desires, and limits, so feel free to communicate them to me. It is much more enjoyable when you let go and enthusiastically get into the scene, because it is exactly what you wanted.
What won't happen during our session?
I am a professional dominant. I do not provide personal services, such as sexual congress, escorting, massage, penetration, or anything else that is illegal in my jurisdiction. I wear fetish attire and costumes appropriate to our scene. I do not provide nudity.
If a scene includes corporal punishment, will you leave marks?
I will respect your mark limit. Your options are no marks, marks that last a few days, or those that linger deliciously for a couple of weeks or longer. My expertise allows me to use exactly the right amount of force to leave the desired impressions or lack thereof.
What about your neighbors?
My neighbors are clueless about the existence of my dungeon. I expect you to be judicious, inconspicuous, and virtually invisible, so as not to upset the delicate balance of the secret location I created. Do not arrive early and sit in your car in front of my house drawing attention to yourself. Only an indiscreet idiot does that. If you arrive early, come in and make yourself comfortable while you wait for our appointed time. Read a magazine, watch TV, grab a bottle of water out of the refrigerator. Mi casa es su casa.
Do I need to bring anything?
If you wish, you may bring your own cross-dressing supplies, medical equipment, enema gear, paddles, and the like. While unnecessary, I find that many clients prefer to provide their own accoutrements. I find this perfectly acceptable. It is your session.
Do I need to bring you a gift?
Gifts are always appreciated, but unnecessary. However, some of my most memorable moments are with those who choose to grace me with a gift. If you wish to gain my favor with a gift, some suggestions are listed below in order of preference. I love surprises.
Fetish Items: My websites all have a wish list menu button.
Fragrance: Si Lolita by Lolita Lempicka
Flowers: Orchids, Pink Tulips, Pink Roses, Peonies, Lilacs
Candles: Fruit-Scented Soy Candles
Gift Cards: Amazon Gift Card
Do you have referrals?
Due to the discretion required by my career, referrals are impossible to provide. I believe that my websites speak for themselves.
When do you schedule sessions?
My facility is open seven days a week. You must schedule at least 24 hours in advance. If you are a return client, I may be able to squeeze you in with less than 24 hours notice. It never hurts to ask.
Do you offer extended sessions?
I offer one hour to one month sessions. I encourage you to session for as long as your budget allows. Imagine the thrill of spending the night chained at the foot of my bed, confined in a cage in my dungeon, restrained in the hospital bed in my clinic, mummified in a leather or latex sleep sack, bound to the sissy bed by silk scarves, or tucked away in one of my nursery cribs. The possibilities are endless.
Is this safe?
My play space is in a very safe, upscale neighborhood. I provide secure driveway and garage parking. You will have a safe word during our session. I will respect your limits, but sometimes safely and thoughtfully push them. My facility is obsessively kept spotlessly clean and sanitary. I practice informed, safe, sane, sober, risk aware kink and consensual play.
What if I don't like it?
I am a dominatrix with over twenty years of professional experience. I put my heart and soul into every scene. Some people enjoy it more than others, but you will never have a bad experience in my care. Reality dictates that sometimes chemistry is just not there between us. If you feel I am not the one you are looking for, I suggest trying another dominatrix in the area. Choose an independent dominatrix who maintains her own dungeon, has her own website, and has years of experience and good reviews under her belt. This will help you avoid winding up with a clueless wannabe or scam artist.
What if I change my mind, once I get to the dungeon?
In the event you change your mind, feel free to leave. Have the common courtesy to compensate me for my time, since I turned down other clients to see you.
What if I cannot make a scheduled appointment?
By all means, call or text to let me know. I will not be upset. I get upset when I spend over two hours preparing myself and the appropriate theme room for our session, only to sit around waiting for a no show. I cannot comprehend how a seemingly sane person can commit to an appointment, then not show up for it without giving me a courtesy call or text to inform me of the cancellation. This is my biggest pet peeve. It is rude, crude, and socially unacceptable to schedule a session then stand me up without warning. A quick call or text to let me know you cannot make it is no problem. Standing me up without notification is.
What should I do to prepare for our visit?
Shower and brush your teeth. You may clean up at my dungeon. Every theme room has its own bathroom. You are welcome to use the hygiene products I have on hand for clients. They are all fragrance free and individually wrapped, like pre-pasted toothbrushes, tiny shampoo bottles, packaged bar soap, et cetera. Plenty of fresh, clean bath linens will be available for your use. You are invited to freshen up before your session, after it, or both. Cleanliness is next to godliness.
Eat a light meal or snack and drink plenty of fluids before arriving. Water is best. Avoid garlic, onions, and fast food for at least 24 hours prior to your session. Chew a piece of minty gum or suck on a breath mint on your way to see me. I have hyperosmia, which is a hypersensitive acute sense of smell, so be mindful of your breath and body odor. I do not mind cologne, as long as you are not doused in it.
What is your intoxication policy?
Avoid alcohol for at least 24 hours prior to your session. Do not arrive drunk or under the influence of drugs, or you will be asked to leave. I realize that, for adults 21 and over, alcohol and recreational marijuana are legal in the state of Illinois. However, I strongly maintain that your session will be more enjoyable and memorable, if you are sober. Prescription marijuana is the obvious exception. Do not skip any prescriptions before or during your session. That is a recipe for disaster.
Do you take a client's preferences or special needs into consideration?
I am thoughtfully and sensitively accommodating to any special client requests or needs. For example, I offer vegan sessions during which no animal products will be used. If you are sensitive to fragrances, let me know prior to your session, so I can take precautionary measures. Inform me if you have any allergies, so I can exclude the allergen(s) from our session. I can accommodate most disabilities. My location is ADA accessible. My ASL is rudimentary, but has been sufficient during past sessions with deaf clients. Over the years I have accommodated paraplegic, deaf, and blind clients, as well as clients with cerebral palsy, early stage Parkinson's, mental illness, mood disorders, amputations, and other disabilities. I look forward to the opportunity to accommodate your disability, special need, or unique preference, even if it is profound.
Am I weird for wanting to do this?
You are not alone. Unfortunately, our society has fostered an air of shame around paraphilia (fetishism, BDSM, kink, and alternative sex practices). Be proud of who you are. I have heard, seen, and done it all over the years. Nothing shocks me. Don't be shy about expressing your fantasies or explaining your fetishes to me. I will listen attentively and try to accommodate you. I suggest reading anything that offers insight into your kink. There are many informative books and websites out there. Try a search for "BDSM" on Amazon. One caveat is don't believe everything you read or see. Most books on the subject are garbage, but there are some very helpful ones. Television and movies often depict very inaccurate portrayals of paraphilia and those who indulge in them. The same goes for adult videos and magazines. Be mindful. Be careful. Use common sense. Most importantly know that you are not a weirdo. You are just marvelously creative, when it comes to achieving sexual satisfaction.
Do you do sessions with couples or cisgender females?
Sorry, but I do not. I can recommend a couple of fantastic Chicago dominatrices who accommodate couples and genetic females.
Do you do sessions with people of all gender identities?
With the exception of cisgender females, I see anyone with any gender expression. I tremendously enjoy sessions with trans, non-binary, intersex, genderqueer, fluid, and gender non-conforming individuals. I entertain pre-operative, post-operative, and non-operative transsexual, transgender, and gender non-conforming individuals. I conduct many sessions with transvestites. A transvestite, also known as a cross-dresser, is simply a cisgender male who enjoys dressing in feminine clothing. All are welcome and genuinely embraced at my facility. I truly enjoy being served by or playing with a tranny slut, cross-dresser, rubber doll, sissy baby, sissy maid, or other non-binary client.
Is your facility receptive to the pansexual community?
I welcome all clients, no matter how they sexually identify.
May I become your personal slave?
An extraordinarily submissive person who meets my criteria will be offered the opportunity to apply as a personal slave. I am very picky about whom I allow to serve me on a personal basis. There is a one in a million chance that you will be exceptional enough to please me and enter my personal life. If you don't play, you can't win. Make an impression. Intrigue me.
Will you travel to my location?
I love to travel. My passport is current. I speak several languages fluently. Over the years I've traversed six continents. I am a savvy traveler. E-mail me to inquire about travel arrangements, whether it is to the next state over or halfway around the world, from the Azores to Zanzibar.